Your right about it being handled differently, I had this very case happen earlier this week and one admin at the time sided with me, The door was shot it was that small closet on bowling. Guy killed the only other guy in there few bullets came out through the door where I was standing. I fired back and blasted whom ever was inside. Turned out to be a T. How ever other admins at the time claimed it to be RDM but another said it wasn't. Even I questioned what I did after it happened however honestly It could go either way, as you stayed these cases are extreme gray zones and don't happen to often but they do. A small consensus and understanding of these events would help smooth things out for when "When" It does happen again.
And a Side note for whom ever in the community reads this
What Mark has built here with defy honestly is growing every day further then I think any of us could have predicted.
We have new people in the sever every day some good...some bad but the community is growing a lot of these new players returning even saying how they like our structuring and rules on TTT. Now on top of the new waves of players we now have a fresh waves of admins that have been appointed are a strong indication of that fact that our community is growing. Heck we could soon become the strongest and most well established TTT community, Or even over time over several games. We all have our moments where we get heated, Hell im guilty of that fact yall know this but I truly enjoy what the community has become and am eager to see where it leads to next. We have our on map makers, Some of the best admins around @Josh @PotatoStyle @Bowie and @Assassin and as I stated up coming admins trying to prove their worth. No ones perfect everyone makes mistakes its what makes us, us and us being human. If we as a community continue to work together and help each other, and I am also talking about myself. Instead of pointing out the flaws and issues perhaps we can change said issues instead of bitching and continue building towards the future of Defy.